Rhett,
I had to tell my ninety-one year old mother my brother was dying since he was asking for her. She couldn't come to the hospital since she was very disabled in a nursing home.
I called the nursing home, told them what was happening with tears streaming down my face, and then they brought my mother to the phone with a kind nursing home person with her. I told my mother my brother was dying and asking for her, and put my cell phone up to my brother's ear. I could not hear all she said, but what I heard was very appropriate mother-son talking. And my mother seldom talked.
It was probably not the worst, but by far the most emotional experience in my life. I understand how hard that was for you.
Shelagh,
My husband was flying from London the day the plane crashed at Lockerbie.
Carol