It Don't Cost Nuthin' to be Nice

Subject: It Don't Cost Nuthin' to be Nice Thu Nov 05, 2009 8:02 am

It Don't Cost Nuthin' to be Nice

At a Touchdown Club meeting many years before his death, Coach Paul "Bear"
Bryant told the following story:

I had just been named the new head coach at Alabama and was off in my old
car down in South Alabama recruiting a prospect who was supposed to have been a
pretty good player and I was havin' trouble finding the place. Getting hungry I
spied an old cinder block building with a small sign out front that simply said
"Restaurant."

I pull up, go in and every head in the place turns to stare at me.
Seems I'm the only white fella in the place. But the food smelled good
so I skip a table and go up to a cement bar and sit. A big ole man in a

tee shirt and cap comes over and says, What do you need? I told him I
needed lunch and what did they have today? He says, You probably won't like
it here, today we're having chitlins, collared greens and black eyed peas with
cornbread. I'll bet you don't even know what chitlins (small intestines of hogs
prepared as food in the deep South) are, do you? I looked him square in the eye
and said, "I'm from Arkansas , I've probably eaten a mile of them. Sounds
like I'm in the right place. They all smiled as he left to serve me up a big
plate. When he comes back he says,

You ain't from around here then?

I explain I'm the new football coach up in Tuscaloosa at the University

and I'm here to find whatever that boy's name was and he says, yeah
I've heard of him, he's supposed to be pretty good. And he gives me
directions to the school so I can meet him and his coach.

As I'm paying up to leave, I remember my manners and leave a tip, not
too big to be flashy, but a good one and he told me lunch was on him,
but I told him for a lunch that good, I felt I should pay.

The big man asked me if I had a photograph or something he could hang up
to show I'd been there. I was so new that I didn't have any yet. It really
wasn't that big a thing back then to be asked for, but I took a napkin and
wrote his name and address on it and told him I'd get him one.

I met the kid I was looking for later that afternoon and I don't
remember his name, but do remember I didn't think much of him when I met
him. I had wasted a day, or so I thought.

When I got back to Tuscaloosa late that night, I took that napkin from
my shirt pocket and put it under my keys so I wouldn't forget it. Back
then I was excited that anybody would want a picture of me. The next
day we found a picture and I wrote on it, Thanks for the best lunch
I've ever had.

Now let's go a whole buncha years down the road. Now we have black
players at Alabama and I'm back down in that part of the country
scouting an offensive lineman we sure needed. Y'all remember, and I
forget the name, but it's not important to the story, well anyway, he's

got two friends going to Auburn and he tells me he's got his heart set
on Auburn too, so I leave empty handed and go on see some others while I'm
down there.

Two days later, I'm in my office in Tuscaloosa and the phone rings and it's
this kid who just turned me down, and he says, Coach, do you still want me at
Alabama ? And I said, "Yes I sure do. And he says OK, he'll come. And I
say, Well son, what changed your mind? And he said, When my grandpa found out
that I had a chance to play for you and said no, he pitched a fit and told me I
wasn't going nowhere but Alabama, and wasn't playing for nobody but you. He
thinks a lot of you and has ever since y'all met." Well, I didn't know his
granddad from Adam's housecat so I asked him who his granddaddy was and he
said, "You probably don't remember him, but you ate in his restaurant your
first year at Alabama and you sent him a picture that he's had hung in that
place ever since. That picture's his pride and joy and he still tells everybody
about the day that Bear Bryant came in and had chitlins with him.

My grandpa said that when you left there, he never expected you to
remember him or to send him that picture, but you kept your word to him
and to Grandpa, that's everything. He said you could teach me more than football
and I had to play for a man like you, so I guess I'm going to.

I was floored. But I learned that the lessons my mama taught me were
always right. It don't cost nuthin' to be nice. It don't cost nuthin'
to do the right thing most of the time, and it costs a lot to lose your

good name by breaking your word to someone.

When I went back to sign that boy, I looked up his Grandpa and he's
still running that place, but it looks a lot better now; and he didn't
have chitlins that day, but he had some ribs that woulda made Dreamland
proud and I made sure I posed for a lot of pictures; and don't think I didn't
leave some new ones for him, too, along with a signed football.

I made it clear to all my assistants to keep this story and these
lessons in mind when they're out on the road. If you remember anything else
from me, remember this. It really doesn't cost anything to be nice, and the
rewards can be unimaginable.

Coach Paul "Bear" Bryant

*Editor's Note: Coach Bryant was in the presence of these few gentlemen
for only minutes, and he defined himself for life. Regardless of our profession,
we do define ourselves by how we treat others, and how we behave in the
presence of others, and most of the time, we have only minutes or seconds to
leave a lasting impression. We can be rude, crude, arrogant, cantankerous, or
we can be nice. Nice is always a better choice. I like what Stephen Grellet, French/American
religious leader (1773-1855) said, "I expect to pass through the world but
once. Any good therefore that I can do, or any kindness I can show to any creature,
let me do it now. Let me not defer it, for I shall not pass this way again.

Subject: Re: It Don't Cost Nuthin' to be Nice Thu Nov 05, 2009 11:58 am

Thank you, Abe.

Subject: Re: It Don't Cost Nuthin' to be Nice Thu Nov 05, 2009 1:43 pm

Wonderful story, Abe.

Subject: Re: It Don't Cost Nuthin' to be Nice Thu Nov 05, 2009 3:28 pm

Thanks, Abe. Today I needed just that story.

Subject: Re: It Don't Cost Nuthin' to be Nice Fri Nov 06, 2009 5:30 am

The important thing is just doing stuff without expecting any reward. The other day someone involved in my medical care said, "You were there for me in a low time in my life years ago and now I'm going to be there for you."

I didn't do what I did to be rewarded someday, and the reward is holding my hand, giving me a smile, good care, and a hug.

There are some priceless things in life. Abe, your story is about one of them.

Love, Carol

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