MESSAGE-CARINGBRIDGE FROM CAROL'S HUSBAND TOM

2/14/2011

I received a message from Tom Carol's husband through Caring bridge,
Carol isn't well at all and her health is failing, this breaks my heart, you
can check the message. I pray for her every night, she's such a fine
lady and has a beautiful husband and family..

http://www.caringbridge.org/visit/caroltroestler

Joe

Thanks Joe for the information.
It is so sad to hear that Carol is not doing well.
She is loved by many.

I visited the site and signed the guest book. I shall pray for her.

This mean disease takes too many people. We are powerless to do anything about it.

It sucks.

Ann

2/14/2011

Carol is in all our prayers.

Joe

Carol amd Tom had a beautiful life together.

I am so sorry that it is like this now.

Cancer is horrible. Lane was lucky-- Pneumonia got him fast.

Cancer is so scary, if one is lucky enough to get over it, there is always the fear of it coming back.

Carol had so much to offer. We miss her good advice.

It just made me cry.

It does looks bleak, but we can't give up hope.
I can only imagine how Tom must feel.
It is so sad.

After last night's message, I'm wondering if the best way for us to help Carol at this point might be to let her go, to say goodbye,and focus our prayers on her making a peaceful transition.

Ann

Life is fragile. Carol has always been a spiritual voice in my experience. Her beautiful spirit has carried her through this difficult time in her life and those of her loved ones and friends. It is without understanding why dear people suffer disease. Whatever is spiritually right in her life is what I wish for her. Her words have always had a positive impact in my life.

I'm actually at a loss for words. I feel very sad. It seems often the most precious people whom we come to care most about are the ones to suffer undeservingly. In the past few years since first meeting her on the boards, Carol Troestler has often been a mentor to me, always kind, resourceful, positive, uplifting and soothing to read her posts and her wisdom portrayed through them. She made a difference in my life.

Carol's in my thoughts and prayers.

2/15/2011

Just received another update from Tom through Caring bridge,
it's sad and I'm crying and praying for Carol...

http://www.caringbridge.org/visit/caroltroestler

Joe

Is it possible to share our prayers and thoughts from this forum with Tom?

2/15/2011

DK...

Click on the site and you can leave a message
for Tom & Carol..

Joe

What Ann said and I will add Pray for Tom.

I've only posted here a couple of times recently, and that was for what I thought was something special.

I'd like to add that my prayers are with Carol and Tom, and the rest of their family, as they face this terrible event. Carol has been a truly gracious lady, and even though we didn't always agree, we had a mutual respect for each other that said we didn't have to agree to be friends.

It will be a sad day when Tom finally loses the love of his life, for him, for their family, and for all of us who have come to know Carol on these book threads. She is a talented and passionate writer, and there has never been any doubt as to her character and her true love of life and her caring for her family and friends.

I sincerely hope that Tom can relay to her the love that the people here have for her, and that she knows that her life has made a difference to many.

Harpe

Thanks Don! Running this forum is unbearable at times. We have lost some much loved members over the years and it never gets any easier.

Tom will be lost without her. He was an excellent caregiver.

I wish we could help him.

Dear Don,
Thank you for saying it so well.

It seems years ago that I met Carol on the PA message board. She and I talked about social writing, like letters we write to friends, how it was kind of lost in the hoopla of message boards and egos. She began to write those kind of posts, the warm and full of love and honesty kind of post and signed them, "Love Carol"
I loved that, too.

I loved Carol from her first post. She is forever a part of me.

God bless Tom and keep him from hurting so much.

Love,
Betty

This sad news about Carol is heartbreaking. I truly believed that she would beat this and come back to the forum. Carol has always been kind, helpful and supportive. Her loving heart and the knowledge she shared with all of us was a blessing for the short time we had her with us.

My thoughts and prayers are with Carol and Tom and their wonderful family.

Love you, Carol!

Helen

Yes, the early days at the PA message board brought together a small group of people who found a connection in spite of the "noise" about. Carol's voice was always tempered by a beautiful spirit. She certainly enriched my life.

It just occurred to me the PA message board folks should be informed of her condition. Who can/will do it?

I'll do it. I just signed on, and my password still works.

Helen,

Thank you so much.

Dear Helen,
Thank you for posting on the PA board.
I posted a response to your post.

I hope that many of the old authors remember Carol and post a kind thought.

Here is my response to your post. Since it is mine, I feel I can post it here.

Posts: 5823

Posted: Wed Feb 16, 2011 6:04 pm Post subject: Dear Helen and Curt, I love Carol Troestler. She writes beautifully. Her books here are Flow On Sweet Missouri and Iowa Born and Bred. She has many other books by other publishers, and a lovely children's book, Now Is Once Upon A Time. She has books written that arenot yet published but viewed with great interest. But her greatest legacy to this life she will leave behind is the love she showed to everyone, the concern and care she gave to people she never met , and her family that she loves without bounds. Any one interested can do a search on this site for her posts. Carol Troestler is one of a kind. I am sorry that Publish America has become so shallow. It was better when the new authors felt friendship and joy and encouragement each to each. Now, it seems cold and desolate. a dog eat dog place where no one cares about another author at all. God bless Carol and her family this night. Love, Betty