Taking a positive approach

Another good one from Ralph:


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THE DAILY MOTIVATOR Thursday, November 21, 2013

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Positive approach +++++++++++++++++++

Conflict can be interesting and enticing, but is not particularly useful. Rather than giving in to the drama of conflict, choose to be genuinely helpful and cheerful, and make yourself much more effective.

Sure, you can get attention by being negative. But you can get much more done by taking a positive approach.

Instead of focusing on what's wrong, offer some workable options for setting things right. When you feel like giving criticism, find a way to give it in the form of encouragement.

You don't have to be nice just to be nice. Be nice, helpful, positive, upbeat and encouraging because that's how you, and everyone else, will make the most progress.

You'll never be able to get back the time and energy you waste on conflict. Yet when you invest your time and energy in being a positive influence, the rewards for doing so will expand exponentially as time goes on.

Your most effective, productive, profitable, compassionate and intelligent choice is to be positive in your interactions with others. It's a choice that lifts the lives of everyone involved.

Ralph Marston

Take a little time, if you have it, to click on the link so you can see the Nature video that goes with the message. It's especially beautiful today.

Annie

You must be kidding.  Where's the fun in being agreeable and positive?  Negativity, chaos and blaming are the meat of the day.

Actually, it's kind of fun. No better way to stop a game of "Ain't it Awful" than to start talking about how good things are. KInd of reverse party pooping.   

Negative info is so much easier to obtain and repeat than the positive stuff.

Thank you, Ann,
for the positive stuff.

I try to keep my focus on the good things, but it isn't always easy. It's one of the reasons I have several bookmarked sites I can go to, and subscribe to newletters.

The one above has quite a few free pages with more videos like the ones I've linked here.

Try to write a screenplay (or a book) without conflict, and see how far it goes.

E. Don Harpe wrote:

Try to write a screenplay (or a book) without conflict, and see how far it goes.

Of course we have conflict. We get angry, and afraid, and we cry when we are sad. A story wouldn't be a story without conflict. It hooks our readers, and sets up the plot. But if the story doesn't continue through to a psychologically satisfying conclusion which resolves the conflict, the reader wouldn't be likely to read our books again.

The problem with focusing on conflict is that we get stuck in a deep hole we cannot get out of. Negativity feeds on negativity and we stay in that dark hole, getting more aftaid, depressed, and angry. We take affront and look for things to be indignant about.

We create our reality by what we focus our attention on. Focus on conflict, you get a life of anger and indignatopn and the belief that this is the way the world is. Focus on the positives, do what makes you feel good, find things to feel good about, and life becomes bliss. The conflicts lead to positive resolutions and affirmative, self-accepting lifestyle.

So, there you go.  Dostoyevesky put it all together.  Political intrigue, people talking about the politics, romance, poverty,rich whores, degraded alcoholics, hope, despair, crime, and damned bad weather.  What else could anyone ask for in a book?  Classic.
Love,
Betty

Most of the people I know (including myself) who talk a "positive plan" - the entire orientation of my church - have overcome a lot of negativity in their own lives and work hard to be positive.

The "positive talkers" are often hiding their struggle with their own demons.

I talk both. I prefer a positive outlook, but I am enough of a realist to know that life is a struggle for most.

DK wrote:

The "positive talkers" are often hiding their struggle with their own demons

I agree. From what I have read - and it generally works with my own experience,, when you try to hide that struggle with your demons (and we all have them), nothing gets resolved. The very fact that one is working to hide tham is an indication of their unacceptability. Facing those same demons and coming to terms with them releases their hold, allowing us to let them go and move on.

I posted another message recently called Our Collective Shadow. Several comments were made ther, too.

The point is that we need to understand that we have a shadow side, face it, accept it - under the "right" circumstances, we can, and sometimes do, commit evil acts. We all have that capability.

Certain religious beliefs make that very scary. We believe that we ought to be all good all the time, but it's bulls***. Once we get that we all have the potential for both good and evil, we can let the negative aspects - that's what it's about - not repressing and deying, but recognizing, accepting, and just letting it go. We are human. We are who we are.

The problems of negativity most ofteh has to do with projecting those negatives onto others, rather than accepting that "We have met the enemy and they is us," according to a famous 'possum from Okefenokee Swamp.

So, focusing on the positive is not about denying the existence of the negative. It is about seeing it, accepting it, and voluntarily choosing to shift that focus toward finding the positives in our environment, our neighbors, and ourselves.

It is not an easy task.

Thanks for that clarification.  Even our minister took a Sunday to explain the difference between positive affirmations and reality - the reality that positive affirmations alone will not create a positive life - we are only only of the forces controlling the universe.  We can be certain that our little force projects positively as often as possible, but we are also influenced by others projections as well.