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+7Shelagh A Ahad alj Carol Troestler Abe F. March zadaconnaway Charlie Moore 11 posters |
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Charlie Moore Four Star Member
Number of posts : 213 Registration date : 2008-08-06
| Subject: Forging friendships Sun Aug 02, 2009 10:06 pm | |
| I see a lot of things on what we call WWW (world wide web). Many negatives like hacking, web porn, attacks on character, and so forth. What I also see is good things. I see friendships popping up where there might otherwise not be one. The internet, with its social rooms and boards such as this one where people can gather have actually created friendships. For instance, take Carol and Betty from this and other previous boards related to writing. Through insights into each others lifes' I believe these two women have forged a friendship that will last the remainder of their lives; the same as if they'd grown up together and shared experiences one on one. Or the friendships I've made with numerous other authors like John Cassell whom I met through Amazon Shorts, or Abe March or Lynn Jett or ... well, you get the picture.
What I'm saying here is let's focus on the good things WWW brings our way. Yes, watch out for evil doers, hackers and the porn stars. And, yes, the lively debates need to continue (with dekorum) because they rejuvinate us. So, if you're of a mind tell us who you've become friends with through this cyberplanet that probably you would never have even heard of otherwise.
Charlie |
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zadaconnaway Five Star Member
Number of posts : 4017 Registration date : 2008-01-16 Age : 76 Location : Washington, USA
| Subject: Re: Forging friendships Sun Aug 02, 2009 10:28 pm | |
| Helen and I have become good friends with much in common. Since we are on opposite coasts, it would never have been possible for us to meet. Or at least the probability of it happening would have been astronomical.
Although I have met many because of my book, most are just acquaintances and I doubt will ever be as meaningful as my friendship with Helen. Some day we will meet face to face, I am certain.
Thanks to the internet, I have also been priveleged to meet 'new' relatives through geneology. Relatives that I choose to call family, and am closer to than my immediate family. |
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Abe F. March Five Star Member
Number of posts : 10768 Registration date : 2008-01-26 Age : 85 Location : Germany
| Subject: Re: Forging friendships Mon Aug 03, 2009 4:30 am | |
| Charlie, Good post. The problem for me is perhaps being too particular with the word, friendship. I have made acquaintances of many people and some I would rather not have met, however there are others whose acquaintance led to a "friendship" of sorts. Of sorts meaning: If I have talked to the person or met them, or had communication other than on a public forum, it is more meaningful. The medium that brought us together was a forum and it continues to be a good place to meet people. |
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Carol Troestler Five Star Member
Number of posts : 3827 Registration date : 2008-06-07 Age : 86 Location : Wisconsin
| Subject: Re: Forging friendships Mon Aug 03, 2009 6:11 am | |
| Charlie,
What a wonderful thing to say about Betty and me. I hope our friendship will last for the rest of our lives.
I am also good friends with Alice and met her one wonderful day last April, and I can't leave out good friend Ann.
Sometimes when concerns enter our lives or we just have things to say that are on our minds and need someone to listen, one of us will email the other three.
We get concerned about each other, we share good news, and listen.
I think I have had more conversations on this messageboard than in real life in the last year. It has been a wonderful place. There are others here who also mean the world to me.
Carol |
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alj Five Star Member
Number of posts : 9633 Registration date : 2008-12-05 Age : 80 Location : San Antonio
| Subject: Re: Forging friendships Mon Aug 03, 2009 6:49 am | |
| Carol, I feel the same, and Charlie, I'll always remember that you were the first to review my book. That's something I truly appreciate.
Ann |
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Carol Troestler Five Star Member
Number of posts : 3827 Registration date : 2008-06-07 Age : 86 Location : Wisconsin
| Subject: Re: Forging friendships Mon Aug 03, 2009 7:12 am | |
| And I don't think these friendships are exclusive. I think of Marie, Shelagh, Dick and Abe and others.
Carol |
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A Ahad Five Star Member
Number of posts : 1102 Registration date : 2008-03-25 Age : 55
| Subject: Re: Forging friendships Mon Aug 03, 2009 7:36 am | |
| Charlie, Another wonderful thread you've started. Yes I think with all these competitive pressures and some authors who take it personally when their work isn't selling as well as they'd hoped... it is all too easy to overlook the blossoms of friendship that has sprouted just about everywhere I've walked on the internet. And the proof? Pick up a copy of the anthology Forever Friends if you haven't already had a chance to do so, and you'll be able to see all the great things all our friends have shared with one another in that book. |
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Shelagh Admin
Number of posts : 12662 Registration date : 2008-01-11 Location : UK
| Subject: Re: Forging friendships Mon Aug 03, 2009 8:42 am | |
| Abdul, you old softie, you've given me a lump in my throat. When my grandmother was asked who was her favorite (we all knew her first-born was, although she would never admit it!), she said the one who needed her most at the time. I feel the same way about the members here. |
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Charlie Moore Four Star Member
Number of posts : 213 Registration date : 2008-08-06
| Subject: Re: Forging friendships Mon Aug 03, 2009 8:53 am | |
| Thanks to everyone for the replies. Yes, Abe, friendship is a term we each place a personal definition on and has individual meaning to us. I am much the same as you.
I hope those of you who want to meet each other get a chance to do so. Carol, when you met Alice (and I believe you've met Abe, as well) were they what you expected (personality). I believe for the most part people are true to themselves and portray that on message boards/social boards (there are exceptions, of course).
When I "met" Dick Stodghill through the History Channel he came across very close to what I had envisioned.
Charlie |
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Carol Troestler Five Star Member
Number of posts : 3827 Registration date : 2008-06-07 Age : 86 Location : Wisconsin
| Subject: Re: Forging friendships Mon Aug 03, 2009 1:58 pm | |
| We drove into the parking lot at Appleby's we had decided to meet, and Alice and her husband were walking across the parking lot and I knew it was them. Alice is happy, humorous, and very friendly. All four of us had some good conversation and could have talked for hours. I'm hoping we're still on for England next May where we're going to meet Shelagh.
My husband and I spent two days with Abe and Gisela in Germany a couple of years ago. We had planned to meet for just a couple of hours, but some how it kept getting longer. What we discovered about Abe is how much people think of him and how many friends he has. He is ready to help wherever needed such as during the grape harvest.
I remember when Dick was on the History Channel. His voice came on before his picture and I knew from the voice it was Dick. His part was the best of anyone's!
We are very good friends here.
Carol |
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A Ahad Five Star Member
Number of posts : 1102 Registration date : 2008-03-25 Age : 55
| Subject: Re: Forging friendships Mon Aug 03, 2009 2:37 pm | |
| - Shelagh wrote:
- Abdul, you old softie, you've given me a lump in my throat.
Well I did not mean to do that. I guess it happened inadvertently... |
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Dick Stodghill Five Star Member
Number of posts : 3795 Registration date : 2008-05-04 Age : 98 Location : Akron, Ohio
| Subject: Re: Forging friendships Tue Aug 04, 2009 10:55 am | |
| The lump in her throat was probably a chicken bone, Abdul. Being an Indiana born Hoosier, I figure everybody is a good person until they prove to be a bastard. Being an Ohio bred Buckeye, I figure everybody is a bastard until they prove to be a good person. |
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Shelagh Admin
Number of posts : 12662 Registration date : 2008-01-11 Location : UK
| Subject: Re: Forging friendships Tue Aug 04, 2009 11:00 am | |
| That's me illegitimate then. |
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zadaconnaway Five Star Member
Number of posts : 4017 Registration date : 2008-01-16 Age : 76 Location : Washington, USA
| Subject: Re: Forging friendships Tue Aug 04, 2009 11:48 am | |
| I think that would apply to most of us, Shelagh, by Dick's definition! |
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alice Five Star Member
Number of posts : 15672 Registration date : 2008-10-22 Age : 76 Location : Redmond, WA
| Subject: Re: Forging friendships Fri Aug 07, 2009 6:07 am | |
| Carol is a doll. She and Tom are a very impressive couple. I have talked on the phone with Jackie--she is wonderful. I met Mr Meiners from PA--very charming man. Carol and I will check out Shelagh and give a full report. |
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Carol Troestler Five Star Member
Number of posts : 3827 Registration date : 2008-06-07 Age : 86 Location : Wisconsin
| Subject: Re: Forging friendships Fri Aug 07, 2009 6:30 am | |
| Alice,
Shelagh better keep getting prepared. She said she had her airline tickets from Wales to London, but how did she know the date we're all meeting there? I don't even know that yet.
Carol
Last edited by Carol Troestler on Fri Aug 07, 2009 8:37 am; edited 1 time in total (Reason for editing : spelling error) |
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dkchristi Five Star Member
Number of posts : 8594 Registration date : 2008-12-29 Location : Florida
| Subject: Re: Forging friendships Fri Aug 07, 2009 7:33 am | |
| I met a few people at the WOW conference that I knew from PAMB, and they were as helpful and charming as their posts. Like Abe, I'm careful with the word "friend" though it is loosely used for all the social networking. I still like to know my friends in person; however, I do believe that words can convey a lot. |
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alice Five Star Member
Number of posts : 15672 Registration date : 2008-10-22 Age : 76 Location : Redmond, WA
| Subject: Re: Forging friendships Fri Aug 07, 2009 9:55 am | |
| - Carol Troestler wrote:
- Alice,
Shelagh better keep getting prepared. She said she had her airline tickets from Wales to London, but how did she know the date we're all meeting there? I don't even know that yet.
Carol I guess she will tell us when--we will be there. I think Dick should come too. All he needs to do is sit on the plane. If we can do it , he can too. |
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Shelagh Admin
Number of posts : 12662 Registration date : 2008-01-11 Location : UK
| Subject: Re: Forging friendships Fri Aug 07, 2009 10:46 am | |
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alice Five Star Member
Number of posts : 15672 Registration date : 2008-10-22 Age : 76 Location : Redmond, WA
| Subject: Re: Forging friendships Fri Aug 07, 2009 10:50 am | |
| No, Shelagh, You are a six-sensoried being with knowings. |
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Shelagh Admin
Number of posts : 12662 Registration date : 2008-01-11 Location : UK
| Subject: Re: Forging friendships Fri Aug 07, 2009 10:52 am | |
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alice Five Star Member
Number of posts : 15672 Registration date : 2008-10-22 Age : 76 Location : Redmond, WA
| Subject: Re: Forging friendships Sat Aug 08, 2009 7:28 pm | |
| Okay, How will we get Dick there? I was glad to hear him say that people should do what they don't want to do. That means we can make him go to London with us and make him eat broccoli. Maybe we can even make him sleep with a cat. Watch out, Dick, Normandy will seem like "duck soup" compared to what you are headed for. |
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Helen Wisocki Four Star Member
Number of posts : 870 Registration date : 2008-03-21 Location : Massachusetts
| Subject: Re: Forging friendships Sun Aug 09, 2009 3:01 pm | |
| I consider many of the people here my friends--and haven't met any of them in person . . . yet! I was drawn to Zada very early on after reading her posts on the PAMB. And she's moving closer to me very soon! We will definitely meet in person some day. |
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